All of us indulge in vicarious pleasures of life
ever now and then, whether it is while flipping through the pages of erotic
thriller Fifty Shades of Grey or watching a celebrity sex video that has gone
viral on the net. However, while we do step in the shoes of a voyeur unknowingly
from time to time, God forbid someone brands us one and all hell will break
lose. However, while it may not be “the” preferred way of sexual gratification
for most of us, we seldom let a chance to pry on a sexual activity slip by.
Therefore, it may be safe to say that voyeurism is
innate to human nature and perhaps the rock bed of physical attraction that we
feel for the opposite sex. However, the point of concern here is identifying
the difference between a harmless erotic preference and a sinister perversion
that can end up leaving both the voyeur and the object of his or her obsession
psychologically traumatized. Hitchcock’s cult classic Psycho is just the case
in point. It was hard to imagine Peeping Tom Norman Bates turning out to be the
knife wielding psycho in the end.
A sensitive subject that demands a thorough
discourse by psychological experts, voyeurism can quickly turn from an undisruptive
erotic activity into a dangerous sexual fascination. In general the attributes
associated with voyeurs are considered undesirable and it is best to steer
clear of people who exhibit a clear preference for this form of sexual deviance
in their love lives. Voyeuristic tendencies can quickly aggravate from fantasy
to obsession and may even lead to sexually aggressive behavior towards the
opposite sex.
The technological advances in this century have
only served to feed our innate voyeuristic tendencies further. We do not blink
an eye before watching an MMS clip that has become quite a sensation due to its
charged sexual content. Gone are the days when the glimpse of a pretty girl’s
cleavage while she bent down was enough to satiate our voyeuristic urges.
Today, we need to watch every other celebrity sex tape that hits the internet,
thus propagating the voyeuristic culture even further.
Maybe we can term voyeurism as a full-blown fetish
in today’s exhibitionist times when every other person wishes to grab eyeballs
by uploading provocative and often wildly inappropriate pictures or videos of themselves
on social media and live video streaming sites. In today’s world where the
Kardashian family is perhaps as or more famous than the Obama family, there is
no shortage of exhibitionists who love being watched and there are almost as
many or more number of voyeurs present to oblige them.
However, while the exhibitionists and voyeurs can
thank the lord of paraphilia for their heavenly match, those who do not fall in
either category should concern themselves with the question of safety, both
physical and mental, while indulging in sexcapades with voyeurs or
exhibitionists. In fact, even when a voyeuristic sex act is consensual, such as
watching your partner masturbate to feel arousal, it can lead to dangerous
outcomes that are tailored to satiate more than just the erotic desires of a
voyeur.
Thus, if the voyeuristic role playing that you have
been introduced to by your lover is making you experience a new wave of
intensity and excitement during love making, do not drop it all together but
make sure that your partner has other bedroom tricks in his or her repertoire
to get his or her and your motor running. However, if he or she insists solely
on voyeuristic role playing, it would be wise of you to seek a consultation
with a psychiatrist to determine your partner’s state of mental health and to
identify any underlying and undiagnosed psychological issues.
Written By: Shweta Ghorpade
Written By: Shweta Ghorpade
