Why this 69 Di

After reading my earlier blogs, some of the readers commented that I am repeating the subject of sex in all my write-ups. But then I question, is sex not the most tabooed subject in our country? The very purpose of starting ‘The Untrodden Path’ is to highlight topics/ subjects/ issues that are less talked about. When it comes to sex, either people are shy/ reluctant to speak about it or consider it something insubstantial/ unimportant to talk about. I wonder whether a little more openness in this regard could have checked our country’s growing population.

About a couple of months back, there was a lot of buzz about a video clip of actress Paoli Dam from the film ‘Chatrak’. There was a lot of interest among both men and women about the scene which shows the Bong actress in full monty. For me, what was also of interest is the fact that the scene shows a couple based in rural India engaged in oral sex (cunnilingus, to be precise). If this is any indication, it must be said that exposure to urban culture and lifestyle and easy access to porn films is elevating the sexual understanding of rural folks to beyond just intercourse.

Talking of oral sex, it reminds of the sex position called 69, also known as mutual oral sex. For those not aware of what 69 is, it is a sex position in which two people align themselves so that their mouths are near the other's genitals, in order to perform oral sex. I have discussed about sex positions in one of my earlier blogs, but unique positions like 69 perhaps deserves an elaborate discussion. I checked with a few people if my thoughts are right, and the response received was quite interesting.

First, the stats. The survey revealed that more than 70% of the respondents like 69 position, around 21% do not, and the rest have never tried it. Clearly, the position is liked by most people today. While some say it is the trickiest position tried but loved, others opine that one feels passionate and strongly sexual trying this position, as it is a nice and sultry form of sex. The one’s who haven’t tried 69 are mostly unmarried couples, who feel that chances of exploring various sex positions are higher in case of married couples. Prior to marriage, you mostly have to remain contended with quickies.

However, while 69 is for people who like raw passionate sex, it has a drawback too, according to some of the respondents to the survey. They feel that some people tend to miss out on a little bit of pleasure due to lack of focus during 69. The justification given is that when one is giving oral to someone, his/her entire focus is to ensure that the partner gets the pleasure he/she intends him/her to feel, and in the endeavour, one may lose focus from the oral pleasure that he/she is deriving from the partner. Therefore, going for oral sex turn wise is a wise thing to do, they feel.

The survey had another interesting finding. Even as the respondents expressed their liking/ disliking for 69, a number of them stressed that the sex position they like the most is doggie style. The female respondents, in particular, were strong supporters of doggie style sex. Except for an odd respondent who feels doggie style sex is painful, other female respondents reveal that they absolutely crave for this sex position because they get to feel the entire length of the penis much better and it is more satisfying. Besides, they do not require much energy to get on the fours, they add.

However, the respondents clarified that doggie style is most preferred for intercourse, but when one is looking for sexual satisfaction without intercourse, 69 gets their vote.

It would now be interesting to find (if possible) whether these preferences are same among rural people. I feel that while presently many of them may not be aware of something like 69, it won’t be long before the scenario changes. 

As I conclude this feature, my request to readers would be to share an honest feedback about this write-up. I would be keen to find out if this story reads overtly sexual/ sleazy to anyone. 69 may not be a taboo or a social issue, but it’s not something most people are comfortable discussing. However, curiosity is there among people to know more about it, especially the trend, and that is the objective of this feature.