Many of us may have the desire or
are actually adventurous during sex, but not many are aware of a very
significant and technical term in this regard – BDSM. It is essentially the
form of sex which involves bondage and submission. In simpler words, the sexual
act in BDSM involves one partner (usually the female) being submissive to the
other, by being blind-folded or hands tied during the act.
While a lot of people may not be
aware of the technical term, a number of them do practice it, at least
partially. Be it spanking in doggy style or having sex blindfolded, many may
have tried it, not knowing that there is a name to the act. A recently
conducted survey revealed that while some have heard the term BDSM but didn’t
know what it meant, few others knew the concept, done that, but weren’t aware
of the specific term.
BDSM may be adventurous for some,
regressive for others, but bottomline is that a lot many people have the desire
to experience it. Just that the desire is visible in some cases, and latent in
others. Considering that most people in the survey have admitted to be game for
being a little more adventurous during sex, it manifests the fact that most
people tend to be kinky during sex.
Also, nearly 70 percent of the
respondents have expressed desire to try their hand at BDSM. In fact, those who
have partially tried BDSM, they have experimented with it in different ways.
Some try out undressing the partner blindfolded, some experiment with BDSM with
imaginary sex toys, etc. Then there are few others who feel that BDSM is
something to be tried at a little older age, by when one has tried out all
contemporary sexual acts.
One also mustn’t forget that the
sculptures at Khajuraho and Konark
Temple
There is also a large section of
people who are against the concept of BDSM. They feel that peaceful people will
not like BDSM, because when sex involves bondage, spanking, etc, it may be
turn-off for many. In fact, there is a general feeling that BDSM is something
that a man will perhaps not try with his wife, where the caring factor is
involved. Most people associate BDSM with lustful sex, which in most cases is
with people other than your partner.
Other findings of the survey show
that unlike most other aspects related to sex, there is a lot of difference in
opinion when it comes to BDSM or sexual activities related to it. While men
feel that intercourse blends the best with BDSM, women feel fisting or oral sex
gel with it better.
One factor that perhaps is a
hindrance to trying out BDSM is that there are very few or perhaps no shop or
online merchandise that sell sex toys or bondage gear in the country, which are
required for BDSM. That doesn’t come as a surprise, considering that sex still
continues to be a tabooed subject in India
