Adventure has a new name: BDSM

Many of us may have the desire or are actually adventurous during sex, but not many are aware of a very significant and technical term in this regard – BDSM. It is essentially the form of sex which involves bondage and submission. In simpler words, the sexual act in BDSM involves one partner (usually the female) being submissive to the other, by being blind-folded or hands tied during the act.

While a lot of people may not be aware of the technical term, a number of them do practice it, at least partially. Be it spanking in doggy style or having sex blindfolded, many may have tried it, not knowing that there is a name to the act. A recently conducted survey revealed that while some have heard the term BDSM but didn’t know what it meant, few others knew the concept, done that, but weren’t aware of the specific term.

BDSM may be adventurous for some, regressive for others, but bottomline is that a lot many people have the desire to experience it. Just that the desire is visible in some cases, and latent in others. Considering that most people in the survey have admitted to be game for being a little more adventurous during sex, it manifests the fact that most people tend to be kinky during sex.

Also, nearly 70 percent of the respondents have expressed desire to try their hand at BDSM. In fact, those who have partially tried BDSM, they have experimented with it in different ways. Some try out undressing the partner blindfolded, some experiment with BDSM with imaginary sex toys, etc. Then there are few others who feel that BDSM is something to be tried at a little older age, by when one has tried out all contemporary sexual acts.

One also mustn’t forget that the sculptures at Khajuraho and Konark Temple, which depict a lot of sexuality among people in the bygone era, indicate that being adventurous during sex existed in that period too. Just that today a specific way of getting kinky has a name, but the seed was always there.

There is also a large section of people who are against the concept of BDSM. They feel that peaceful people will not like BDSM, because when sex involves bondage, spanking, etc, it may be turn-off for many. In fact, there is a general feeling that BDSM is something that a man will perhaps not try with his wife, where the caring factor is involved. Most people associate BDSM with lustful sex, which in most cases is with people other than your partner.

Other findings of the survey show that unlike most other aspects related to sex, there is a lot of difference in opinion when it comes to BDSM or sexual activities related to it. While men feel that intercourse blends the best with BDSM, women feel fisting or oral sex gel with it better.

One factor that perhaps is a hindrance to trying out BDSM is that there are very few or perhaps no shop or online merchandise that sell sex toys or bondage gear in the country, which are required for BDSM. That doesn’t come as a surprise, considering that sex still continues to be a tabooed subject in India.